The Colour Quiz
Your Existing Situation
Feels obstructed in his desires and prevented from obtaining the things he regards as essential.
In the larger picture this is talking about moving closer to kissycat1000 and the problems facing that, ie. changing jobs and getting a mortgage.
Your Stress Sources
Has lost the resilience and strength of will necessary to contend with existing difficulties. Feels overtaxed and getting nowhere, but continues to stand his ground and still pursues his objectives with a fierce intensity. This subjects him to intolerable pressure from which he wants to escape, but he cannot bring himself to make the necessary decision. As a result he remains firmly involved in the problem and can neither view it objectively nor get rid of it--he cannot leave it alone and feels he will only be at peace when he has reached his objective.
The loss of resilience and strength of will I think is talking about my recent past when I did not feel able to contend with applying for new jobs. Now however I feel a lot better because I have purpose at work now and am making progress in job hunting. I do believe I remain firmly involved in the problem but only because I believe my objective is ultimately reachable. It's called ambition.
Your Restrained Characteristics
Believes that he is not receiving his share--that he is neither properly understood nor adequately appreciated. Feels that he is being compelled to conform, and close relationships leave him without any sense of emotional involvement.
I have had troubles with these things in the past at different times but I don't believe it is anywhere near true now.
Exacting in his emotional demands, especially during moments of intimacy leaving him frustrated in his desire for a perfect union.
No. I don't believe there is such a thing as a perfect union (see pop psychology in films like 'The Matrix'). But there is near as damnit, and I've got that, which makes me very very happy.
Very exacting in the standards he applies to his choice of a partner and seeking a rather unrealistic perfection in his sex life.
Possibly, but I actually have some sort of method to my madness through being open-minded, unlike most people.
Circumstances force him to compromise and to forgo some pleasures for the time being. Capable of achieving physical satisfaction through sexual activity.
Life is a compromise. Tell me something new. The last bit is thankfully true.
Your Desired Objective
Takes easily and quickly to anything which provides stimulation. Preoccupied with things of an intensely exciting nature, whether erotically stimulating or otherwise. Wants to be regarded as an exciting and interesting personality with an altogether charming and impressive influence on others. Uses tactics cleverly so as to avoid endangering his chances of success or undermined others' confidence in himself.
Sounds like I want to manipulate people. But if being inquisitive and personable is manipulating, then I'm guilty.
Your Actual Problem
Has a fear that he might be prevented from achieving the things he wants. This leads him to employ great personal charm in his dealings with others, hoping that this will make it easier for him to reach his objectives.
So I'm doing something to get where I want to be. And it doesn't involve stepping on others. I don't think that's a problem.
Your Actual Problem #2
The tensions induced by trying to cope with conditions which are really beyond his capabilities, or reserves of strength, have led to considerable anxiety and a sense of personal (but unadmitted) inadequacy. He attempts to escape into a substitute world in which things are more nearly as he desires them to be.
The first part is all true. I was depressed as a result. I would imagine my substitute world would be being geeky at home; something I have control over.
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